Romance is in the air, cupid is flying around and you’re hornier than ever! While celebrating love with a special someone is a great time, so is celebrating intimacy with a bunch of naked hotties! Maybe you have a sweetie you want to treat to a giant group orgy or maybe you just want to get sweaty with a bunch of strangers. If you’re curious about throwing an orgy on Cupid’s holy day, we’re here to help. Orgies don’t have to be complicated, but it is good to have a few things thought out ahead of time. Here’s how to do it right!
1. Establish A Guest List
How many people does an orgy need to be called an orgy? While the answer is debatable, you do need the right mix of adventurous people to get the night started. You can invite friends, vetted acquaintances, sex positive folks from your community, or strangers. Think about the comfort level of those involved and the kind of energy you want to create. Maybe it’s a cum n go situation or maybe it’s an all night affair.
- Consider the vibe of the event and the personalities you’re hoping to attract at this event.
- Make sure everyone is fully informed about the direction the evening will go.
- Be clear about consent in the invitation, as well as any other expectations such as arrival time, dress code, attitude, etc.
- Give guests ample time to plan to attend!
2. Choose The Right Space
You don’t need a bunch of beds or a fancy hotel room to throw a killer orgy but considering where you’re hosting is important. The space should be comfortable and private, with different spots for both intimacy and a spot for folks to take a break. You want space to play and space to socialize.
- Set the mood with good lighting, comfy fabrics and bedding, cozy lounging areas and candles. Don’t forget music! A sexy playlist will help set the mood.
- Create a non-play area where folks can chat, eat and drink.
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Set up a COVID testing spot near the door if folks didn’t test ahead of time.
3. Get The Evening Started
There’s many ways to get the party started. It’s a smart idea to have a cut-off time for arrival, this way you don’t have to re-explain any rules or expectations. Starting the night with an explanation of consent, any off-limit play or materials and any safer sex practices expected will ensure everyone is on the same page. Make sure folks know that voyeurism is welcome! There’s no pressure to play and the word “no” is always acceptable.
- Offer sexy and non-intimidating ice breakers, such as truth & dare, body painting, sexy storytelling, or spin the bottle.
- Put safer sex supplies in play areas and bathrooms. It’s also nice to provide extra towels, wipes, breath mints, etc. in play areas or bathrooms.
- Make sure there’s food and snacks as well as different hydration options.
- If drinking is involved, it’s a good idea for one or two hosts to stay sober and ensure everyone is playing safely.
4. HAVE FUN.
There’s so much to do at an orgy! Don’t be afraid to make the first move or ask to kiss someone! If you feel nervous, it’s okay to just watch. You can make out with multiple people, you can jerk off, you can have full-on sex with multiple people!
- Consider ahead of time what sort of activities you’re excited to do and what sort of activities you’re not interested in. Also think about what sort of safer sex practices you’d like to implement for yourself.
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Bring your toys! Don’t assume someone will bring the lube you like! Bringing toys also shows folks what you might be into. For instance, if you’re carrying around a flogger there is a good chance someone will ask you to use it on them/vice versa!
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Don’t put pressure on yourself or others. Go in with no expectations. You never know what might happen. Your nerves might get the better of you or there may be no one you click with. Instead of being disappointed nothing happened, feel proud that you got out of your comfort zone and tried something new.
5. Aftercare, duh!
So you hosted an orgy! Congrats! After cleaning up, give yourself a bath and a rest or whatever sort of after care you and your body might be desiring. It’s important to give yourself and others time to wind down. Reach out to your guests and thank them for coming. Ask if they had a good experience and be open to suggestions on how to improve future sexy times.
A well-planned V-Day orgy is not just about having a hot sexy time, but also about practicing communication and respect and sharing pleasure. With the right preparation, you can create an unforgettable celebration of love!
