Let’s start with this. A polycule gift exchange is not your family’s dry-ass Secret Santa. This is an erotic yet delicate ecosystem of hotties. This gathering of sweethearts, lovers, metas, your partner’s partner’s ex and at least one chaotic bisexual should be a night to celebrate each other. Done right and it’s an evening of feeling flirty and affirmed. However, done poorly, this holiday hang could result in hurt feelings, hour-long discussions and therapy sessions.
So let's make it sexy and smooth!
1. Figure out the vibe. Are we talking cheeky stocking stuffers? Or a moment to spoil another with luxurious gifts? Decide your max budget that is comfortable for everyone. Also figure out your group's level of spice (we at Bedroom Besties think sex toys should definitely be on the table). Lastly, if folks have allergies or preferences, let those be known as well.
2. Get organized. You could draw names or spin a wheel to figure out who gets paired with who, but then it wouldn’t be a surprise for everyone! Recruit a pal outside of the polycule to draw names and text the crew individually to let them know who to give gifts to. This is also an excuse to draw an L-Word themed map of who is primaries with who and who should definitely not be paired together.
3. Exchange Intel. Everyone drops a mini wish list: interests, colors they love (and colors they hate) and the general energy of the gifts they wish to exchange.
4. Don’t just shop, curate an experience. You could give them exactly what is on their list, but where’s the fun in that! If they ask for a remote-control butt plug, pair it with an anal lube and a flirty note. If they get a vibrator, pair it with some stimulation gel and toy cleaner. A Hitachi Magic Wand and a sexy playlist.
5. Make the evening special. You’re celebrating each other so make your space warm and comfortable. Light candles and make a charcuterie board and put out extra pillows. Oooh and Ahhh at everyone’s presents. Compliment each other (and flirt) while taking cute pics. People deserve to be doted on by more than one person at a time and here’s everyone’s chance to shower each other with love!
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